The Ten-Things Podcast
Each Podcast Season we select a topic and break it down into ten episodes. These episodes cover various aspects of the topic we find most interesting and/or helpful. Anna and David share their points of view in a conversational style that seeks to inform and entertain. We hope that each Season will present you with Ten things to consider about the topic we select.
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Monday Jul 31, 2023
Monday Jul 31, 2023
CONTACT DAVID FOR QUESTION AND COMMENTS-
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
You Are God's Gift To Me/Us
We are responsible for being the best parents we can be
Will you pray for us that we will become the best parents we can be?
I want to be the best Dad/Mom I can be…
Monday Jul 24, 2023
Monday Jul 24, 2023
Contact David for any Questions or Comments
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
I don't have a plan for your life, but I want to help you
discover your dream for your life.
I'm more concerned about the kind of person you become than the job/career you choose.
It’s your life…it’s your choice!
You don’t have to decide right now…dream a little.
Dream WITH your child…Let them discover their dream not some version of yours.
It's important for a parent to not shoot down something their child says as they are processing ideas about the future (Professional Skateboarder, Nurse, Teacher).
Parents have to let go of the dreams they have for their children to let the child discover the possibilities that could become their future.
Monday Jul 17, 2023
Monday Jul 17, 2023
Contact David for Questions and Comments
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
If you're ever worried, concerned, or scared, you can always talk about it with me.
It’s important to communicate this to children before they are worried, concerned, or scared, as well as when they have these feelings.
Dads must work to NOT be in “fix-it mode” when listening to a child’s concern or problem.
Making sure that you resolve conflicts between yourself and your child is essential for deeper levels of communication.
Look for opportunities that allow your child to open up about things that may be bothering them. (Neighbors being evicted)
Helping your child resolve a problem, find a solution, or figure out what to do, is more important and, life-impacting, than giving them the answer or resolving it yourself.
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Tuesday Jul 11, 2023
Contact David for Comments and Questions-
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
When I'm not with you, I still think about you.
I always carry your picture with me when I go away.
I have your picture on the wallpaper on my phone.
Call home-"I was thinking about you today and was reminded of ____________ and how proud I am of you.”
“I was thinking about you this morning and praying for you about…”
When out of town make it a priority to talk to them every day.
Even when we are apart, our family is still connected.
Even when in town, surprise your child with an unexpected phone call and chat with them for a few minutes.
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
Wednesday Jul 05, 2023
Contact David for any comments and questions:
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
When I make mistakes I will always apologize and
try to make things right with you.
I am going to make mistakes and so are you. It’s part of being human.
We have to learn to forgive one another for our mistakes and make things right with one another.
It takes practice...and humility.
When you admit you are wrong and apologize, you teach your child to do that with others.
"I was wrong to do/say/act the way I did. I'm sorry, and hope you can forgive me."
Don't pressure the child to say they forgive you. It might take some time. They will usually be glad to forgive, but not necessarily always.
Monday Jun 26, 2023
Monday Jun 26, 2023
Contact David for Comments and Questions-
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
I’m Proud of You Because You Are Mine And I Get To Be Your Parent!
There is a difference between being proud of what your child accomplishes and being proud of them for who they are. Both are good but need to be communicated differently.
It is important to tell them how proud you are of them when they do the right thing. This reinforces their actions with your approval. However, if they only hear that you are proud of them when they accomplish something, it sends the wrong message.
They also need to hear you are proud of them when they don’t accomplish anything.
When a child hears, “I’m proud of you because you are mine and I get to be your Dad/Mom!” it has a profound impact on their sense of relational security and helps to increase the Safe Space they feel with you.
Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
Tuesday Jun 20, 2023
Contact David For Questions and/or Comments
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
. Spending Time With You Is One Of My Favorite Things To Do-
Going to Mcdonald's for ice cream and play area with you.
Going to the park to play with you.
Sitting and reading a book with you.
Watching a Lassie movie with you…
Doing things special to your child, not you, are essential activities.
Going to Sonic and taking drives during high school…
Birthday breakfasts
You will have to carve out special time to spend with your child
Wednesday Jun 14, 2023
Wednesday Jun 14, 2023
Contact David for any questions and/or comments-
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
I don’t expect you to be perfect, you are going to make mistakes, and that’s ok.
I’m not perfect & no one else is either-
I do expect you to try your best all of the time.
I do expect you to find a good attitude when you have a bad attitude.
When I am correcting your behavior, it is because I love you and want what is best for your life.
Your being happy right now is not my biggest concern. You growing up to be the right kind of person is.
“You can feel any way that you feel...but you can't act any way you want to act” - I feel like I heard this a lot (Anna :) Helping a child come to understand that there is a difference between how they feel, and how they are allowed to act, is critically important for their emotional and social development.
Managing the tension between how you want a child to act and how they act requires patience, consistency, and being in it for the long haul.
Monday Jun 05, 2023
Monday Jun 05, 2023
Contact David for comments and/or questions:
davidhiggtx@gmail.com
There is a special place in my heart that is only for you, and no one can take your place!
Do you have a special place for Tato (my brother) too?
And for Mommy? For Grandma?
God has a special place in His heart for you too.
Knowing that they have a special place in their parent(s) heart(s) allows a child to feel secure and cared for at a deep level.
This security gives a child a sense of belonging and that there is a safe place for them within their family.
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Tuesday May 30, 2023
Contact David with Questions & Comments: davidhiggtx@gmail.com
10 Things Every Child Needs To Hear From Their Parents
No kid has perfect parents, and no parent has perfect kids
1. I love you all of the time
Even when you act in ways that I don’t want you to.
I don’t love you more when you obey or less when you disobey.
I love you when I feel good and when I feel ill.
I love you even when I’m disciplining you.
I love you when you’re sleeping.
I love you when you’re awake.
I love you when you’re playing.
Can you think of anytime when I don’t love you?
I love you right now (when you are grumpy or acting out)
The Father/Daughter Podcast Team
David Higginbotham and Anna Collier are a father/daughter podcast team that brings a fresh conversational style into every discussion they have.